Headache Pain Control - Using TimeLines

Kalliope Barlis 

A client came to me to reverse her discomfort back to balanced comfort because she is going through menopause. I advised her to see a doctor to rule out anything that did need medical attention and she was cleared of anything any test could find. I also recommended she avoid caffeine and alcohol (especially wine) as they exacerbate the symptoms. Recently, she contacted me via text while she was overseas.

The following conversation took place: 

She wrote: “I fell asleep and woke up with a splitting headache. I had one all day but now its really bad. I want to cut my head off.”

I wrote: “Well then,  it’ll just be your head rolling along the floor with a headache all of its own. Maybe you should put a scarf around it so it doesn’t get cold.”

After she settled from laughing she wrote:  “I am talking to other women and reading what’s on the internet and I just don’t understand why I am getting these headaches.”

I wrote: “You can talk to other women who have similarities in what you’re going through but all that really does is reinforce what you are going through. Has it been helpful?” 

She wrote: “Not really. I read all of these articles and no one understands what we go through. They think we are imagining things.”

I wrote: “Well, for now, let’s imagine together. Simply be in a comfortable position and soften from the top of your head to the soles of your feet all the way back up to your cheeks and soften. If that doesn’t work, take an aspirin.” 

She wrote: “Are you kidding? I’m just waiting a bit and I will take an aspirin. But, talk to me first.”

I wrote: “See a line in front of you, from left to right. Now, in the center of the line, put your present moment. See your self on the line going through the present moment. You are looking at your self going through what you are going through. Start with the pain in your forehead and place the pain from your forehead on the center of the line. Do that several times so that bit by bit the pain transfers to the line. Extract the pain and give it to the center of the line. See the pain on the center of the line.”

She wrote: “Some of the pain moved into the line.” 

I wrote: “Now go to your temples and do the same. We will come back to the forehead. Bit by bit, take the pain from the temples and place it on the center of the line, on top of the pain from the forehead. So that now, you’re stacking the pain from the temple onto the pain from the forehead. Keep stacking it. Then, switch to the forehead and throw the forehead pain onto the line, then the temple pain onto the line, and again and again switch. How are you doing?”

She wrote: “I do have the ability to move the pain. It is just slow and stubborn.” 

I wrote: “Sometimes, things have a tendency to be sticky. So let’s take some time to start unsticking it so that you can continue doing so. Be patient with it. Look, at the line in front of you, to the right of center. And see how when you move the pain from the center to the right the pain becomes less and less as it moves along the line.” 

She wrote: “Look at the center or the right?” 

I wrote: “Look at the center, then move your attention to the right of the line and notice how the feelings are becoming less and less painful and you feel more with ease.” 

She wrote: “Yes, it does.” 

I wrote: “So now throw the feelings fast from your forehead and temple onto the center of your line then watch the feelings move to the right and the more they move to the right the more they dissolve. Because, that’s eventually what’s going to happen in your future. The pain is dissolving in through your future so that you no longer feel the pain but you feel at ease.”

She wrote: “Ok, let me do it.” 

I wrote after some time: “How has it changed?” 

She wrote: “It got better. I just need to keep doing it.” 

I wrote: “That’s right, and as often as it takes.” 

That was the last of the conversation until the next morning I received a text saying: “Good morning, thank you for last night. I woke up with the same headache and I did the same exercise and it goes away temporarily or when I do it. It is amazing how that exercise works. It works.” 

Well, actually, the way she thinks works. She’s been given a tool to look into her present and future from a disassociated point of view and realize that what happens now is only temporary but what she does now can influence her future moments so that she feels better.

The more you do NLP techniques, the more effective you become at doing them and come up with variations of the profound template we’ve been given by Richard, John and Kathleen’s seminars making them effective for individual circumstances. Often, it doesn’t take more than one conversation to initiate change with NLP. In this case, the woman had an admittedly stubborn annoyance that she herself realized would take her own effort to make the change she wanted when needed. NLP is constant practice and most professionals call what they do “a practice” because they realize it is a work of mastery in progress. And NLP gives us the opportunity to master our own lives personally so that we have a greater sense of well being in anything that we do and through any challenges we may face.